This abuse can range from subtle emotional manipulation to severe sexual and physical abuse. The only reason we are still together is that he was not real. I read further on Dr. Just long enough for us to pair-bond and continue the survival of the species.
Reply Doug April 10, at 3: Nearly all limerent relationships end within 36 months; some much quicker. There are several strategies that may help you and with time, perhaps help your partner to see you are a better option to rebuild a relationship with. People either move towards pleasure or away from pain. Therefore, when he tells you he never loved you, he believes this. We are, in the end, in charge of our own decisions, and having to cope with strong feelings is not an adequate excuse for betraying a partner. Would they be more supportive, more compassionate? It could have developed into an emotional affair. His mind rewrites history in order to justify his involvement with her. Typically one person enters limerence faster than the other. Even though my H read about Limerence early on in the EA, it has been very difficult for him to stop the obsessing of the OW. It seems to me that non-limerents have a distinct advantage here. That said, we recommend you work on yourself for yourself, whatever happens to your relationship. Interestingly, the one who enters limerence faster is usually the one who comes out of limerence first. The erratic and bizarre behaviour of the betrayer suddenly makes sense to the betrayed. It is characterised by: We call this emotional state limerence. What is keeping him from admitting to me and to our children that the affair is still ongoing? We would recommend you also look at yourself in a fierce and honest way to see what behaviours you may have shown in the relationship that were less than loving. They exist in the throes of ecstasy that come with limerence, as well as the pits of fear when anything occurs that has any possibility of preventing them from being together. However as adults, these behaviours no longer serve their need — but old patterns die hard. He has gone from being a respected member of the community and church to a man who has thrown away all of his morals and values. A window of opportunity for some much needed emotional growth is presented. The client has protected themselves by covering their hearts over the years and decades with layers and layers of reinforced concrete. Additionally, anything associated with her — letters, gifts, places they visited together, etc.
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